Photo: One of our neighborhood gardens, by Meg.Brené BrowntoldwantParenting CD Discussion GuideThe Gifts of Imperfect Parenting: Raising Children with Courage, Compassion and Connectionwhen we numb shame, fear, anxiety, sadness, vulnerability, grief, uncertainty, and disappointment (and teach our children to do the same), we automatically dull our experiences of joy and compassion.
"We can NOT give our children what we don't have. If we want our children to have courage, compassion, and connection, we must practice these things in our daily lives. If we want them to love and accept who they are, our job is to love and accept who we are."The Gifts of Imperfect Parenting: Raising Children with Courage, Compassion and ConnectionOrdinary Couragean expert on shame, empathy and vulnerability 10 guideposts for engaged parenting
Practice loving-kindness Embrace imperfection Understand shame and practice resilience Make space for rest, creativity and gratitude Hold spirit sacred Make mistakes, make amends Learn hope Practice forgiveness and self-compassion Lean into discomfort and pain Practice courage by setting limits and respecting boundaries This list stirs hope in my heart and resonates with the desires my husband and I share about raising our girls. Shame is on my radar lately, particularly the way we've been conditioned to use shame to get compliance and the high price we pay for that, knowingly or unknowingly. Anyone interested in having this kind of conversation has my attention, but having Brené Brown generate this conversation makes me feel like I've hit the jackpot. I have a feeling that her book will be on my reading list soon. On Monday (6/9), she will also launch a blog series on The Gifts of Imperfect Parenting that I will be reading religiously, and I invite you to join me there for an incredible discussion.