Podcast: Let Your Community Hold You

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I want to thank all of you who have sent me words of encouragement or called to check in, or even sent good wishes for last night's live storytelling event.  The event itself was good, just a little anti-climatic in that it's a "draw the name out of the hat" gig and my name wasn't drawn.  Maybe Monday. I'm letting my community hold me this week, which is the topic of today's podcast.  How do you give or receive support?  What are the little acts of love that keep you going along the way?

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The Miracles We Hold in Our Hands

Your Life in Tune

I love the name of your coaching practice: Resonance. Your life in tune. One thing I've been thinking about lately are the things in which we're good at diagnosing, like going to the dentist when we have a toothache.  But, with coaching--how can we diagnose when coaching is the answer to what ails us? Now, I would pay money just to be friends with you (I probably shouldn't admit that), because the conversations we have are so clarifying for me. But in the role of a coach, what exactly is in your tool belt? I don't hear people in the west talk much about body, unless something's broken.I can see that with my kids.Lucy (age two) actually slumps forward when she walks--like Charlie Brown--when she's bummed out. So in coaching do you recommend dismantling the override? Can you do this kind of work over the phone, or only in person?What are you tuning in your own life?Phyllis Mathis is the founder of Resonance Coaching. She's been a psychotherapist, working in the  field of Counseling Psychology since 1992.  She's been trained in Ontological Coaching at Newfield Network, the  premier coaching institute in North America.

The Grounded Middle

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  1. Reach out to support someone else.  It always adjusts my perspective to remember i'm not the only one celebrating or struggling.  Giving love and encouragement reminds me of who I am.
  2. Put something in order.  Washing dishes, putting away laundry, clearing clutter--anything that orders my physical environment--helps minimize my visual distractions and loss-related stress.  My thoughts and emotions order themselves while I work.
  3. Take one small Next Step.  These are not the days to expect blockbuster performance.  Whether it's a submission that seems daunting or a chore I've been avoiding (for sometimes months), one small action to move the ball forward is sometimes all it takes to change the whole game.